Painful Truths In Relationships

Copyright (c) 2011 Karen Chai Kar Siang

It is not often easy for any serious relationship to reap its sweet fruits eventually. It is not a straightforward equation such that being good and doing everything perfectly that one shall be able to achieve the best from the relationship. Neither does it mean that staying the same bears constructive ends. After all, people change and experience different heights in life that shall drive a difference along the dynamics in their relationship. So there are always things that need refinement, all the more for ourselves to further develop.

Remember when you choose to enter a relationship, there is the possibility that you may fall, break and experience a mix of everything in between; laughter, joy, sadness and despair. There is no such thing as a rosily every after or that all shall remain the same forever. After all, people do change, have feelings, emotions and can become moody all of a sudden due to everyday circumstances. People also grow weary and tired of the never changing routines or over the things that have been missing for long. One way or the other, there would be communication barriers that start building itself whenever conflicts arise. It is too when these conflicts happen, little breaks start tearing apart the relationship unknowingly eating it away slowly.

You may not be able to undestand everything or piece the puzzle together without gaps in between. This is one thing that any person in a relationship should avoid thinking; the notion that he/she has all the answers. We just do not know everything and it certainly is a heavy toll for us to look for all the missing pieces without asking some of these questions straight out. Sometimes, we thought we knew the other person so well but in fact it turns out to be the exact opposite. And sometimes, the pain can be derived from the fact of having been together for years and still not being able to understand what the other person is really thinking. This maybe a relationship heavily sustained over time and is over the edge; because can you imagine for how much longer can it stay that way? One way or the other, someone bears the pain if it is not a mutually understanding relationship.

Therefore, it is absolutely crucial to stay strong and look towards betterment in our future relationships, be it one with another or one that is alone by ourself.


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